When we change the way we look at things the things we look at change.
Change is good. Change takes courage. Nothing is constant but change.
I’ve heard these and other sayings about change for probably most of my life. I’ve also observed that some people are afraid of change. Some people embrace it.
The idea of changing the way we look at things and using fear, guilt, anger, hurt feelings and unworthiness as tools to EXPAND my comfort zone has been mind blowing in a very good way! This transformative way of thinking has allowed me to stop and quietly observe and even question “I” about what’s really going on when one of these feelings creeps up.
Recently I felt anger about a situation. First, I observed that I feel anger a lot. Those peptides must be having a feast off that surge of energy! Second, I realize that anger is a power tool and that I can substitute productivity for anger. I envision this massive power tool that’s more like Luke Skywalker’s light saber and I’m good and wielding it!
The anger energy is transformed into feelings of compassion, love, patience and determination to be the change I wish to see in the world. Real change comes from thought selection, thought control. I can be what I will to be. I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy!
Last night I watched the movie I Am. Instantly I knew that the filmmaker was the same Hollywood Director who commissioned the documentary Happy. Due to a terrifying bike accident and horrible concussion, the filmmaker realized that although he had the financial wealth many would literally kill for, he was not happy.
The Director, Tom Shadyac’s interviews with renown authors, poets, teachers, religious leaders and scientists allowed him to investigate the fundamental problem that causes all the other problems in the world and also allowed him to reflect on his own life choices of excess, greed and eventual healing.
He made drastic changes in his life. One was moving out of his mansion into a trailer park were he has more human interactions and genuine human connections. He gave up his limo to ride his bike to work everyday. He now has more love and appreciation for life itself, I believe.
In my own life, I’ve recently noticed how much “stuff” I have accumulated that I don’t use, want or even know exactly where it is in the house. I’ve realized I can’t say I’m going to use it someday if I don’t even know where it is. What’s the point? What’s the point if it doesn’t bring me joy?
Change. Awareness is the first step towards change.
I’m aware that I have too much stuff and created a mastermind with a friend for help. Seeing the area in question I was actually ashamed to have her see it since she helped me before about a year ago! Was it guilt? Self-directed anger because she helped me so generously and now it looks crazy again! Yes, probably so.
Change. Transform. I took those feelings of guilt and shame and went into major declutter mode. At least now I won’t feel embarrassed when she comes over. And more importantly, I used what I once thought of as a negative emotion to create a positive change.
I love my friend and I appreciate her help. My heart felt bad so I knew I needed to express my gratitude by not presenting her with another disaster. It means that I do have “home training”, as they say in the south. I have a heart of appreciation and can express my behavior as a human being.
Grateful for change.